3 Categories To Achieve Intimacy

Caring

Caring is the beginning, this is the little things you do for each other throughout the day. The little gestures that you don’t even think about, It just comes naturel. For me, not to embarrass my husband, but he does the sweetest things on a daily basis. I don’t think he even knows it. Just this morning, for instance he gets up pretty early to go to work every morning, he always makes sure I am tuck in the covers, turns the fan on, kisses me good morning before he even steps out of the room. He thinks about the little things for me. He always considers me first. I think sometimes I don’t even realize he is doing it. It is just instinct for him, I hate to say it, but I just take those moments for granted, We shouldn’t! Think on those little gestures you do for each other daily and you don’t even know it. What can you do to show your spouse how much you care for them?

Give and Take

It’s all about give and take in a relationship. How many of us take more than we give? I know I’m guilty of this at times. We need to take those moments and cherish them and be intentional to be the one to consider the other one first. Examples of being caring and considerate is picking up their plate after meal time, Let the other one watch what they want on television, sometimes just a kiss on the forehead can be a gesture of caring, fixing a bath for your spouse, whatever you know that they would appreciate from you, that’s what we should do, consider them first with true concern and love. Yes, we will still have those moments of getting on each other nerves at times. We are still human but let’s try to make an effort to really care and nourish our relationships. To put them first in our lives.

Caressing

The second thing I realize in my own marriage is how important Caressing one another daily is. This could be a massage you give, taking a bubble bath and washing each other’s back, spooning in bed just cuddling one another, even the tender touch of your hands caressing his face and truly looking in each other eyes saying goodbye in the morning, or giving a big hug 🤗 not letting go for a few seconds. All these moments are so important in intimacy and our relationship.
We send emojis throughout the day to each other. We say things like sweetie, my love, I love you, we are a little mushy sometimes lol 😂 but it really keeps the intimacy continuing all the time. My hubby always I mean always prays with me before leaving out the door. That is so very special to me. Again, those little things or gestures really do matter.

Special Touches

I do think touching each other at times in a sweet intimate way, makes all the difference in keeping things fresh and exciting. Think of ways that you can show your love in special touches. Make their favorite meals, looking nice when they come home, have the house homey and clean, have a bath drawn up for them, music and candles going, and get creative. Think outside the box. Plan a date night or a weekend away that always helps us in our marriage. We absolutely love to go camping for the weekend, getting outdoors to be with nature, seeing Gods beautiful creation. It is so relaxing to be on the lake looking over the water planning our future together and sitting by the campfire enjoying the flames sparkling over the wood, it can be so peaceful.

Compassion

The third thing I wanted to point out was Compassion. There really has to be compassion in your relationship. Yes, I do mean physical but also spiritual oneness which is more important than we know.

Let’s consider what does compassion truly mean? This is in the Strong’s concordance compassion (in the plural); by extension the womb (as cherishing the foetus); by implication a maiden: bowels, compassion, damsel, tender love, mercy, pity. Let’s also see what the dictionary has to say about it… Deep awareness of the suffering of another accompanied by the wish to relieve it: pity. Not what I was thinking at all. How do we relate this to our intimacy? Look at it again cherishing the foetus I look that up to get more understanding. It is referring to fetus unborn offspring of an animal that develops from an embryo. We need to be tender and have the deep understanding of our oneness as husband and wife. Treat it as an embryo and nourish our Love and compassion for one another. Just as a mother in the deep stages of development of her embryo before it is born. Lord teach us to have that kind of compassion as husband and wife. Help us to cherish each other and not take our precious love for granted.

TRIPLE-BRAIDED CORD IS NOT

EASILY BROKEN

What does that truly mean?

I believe it’s referring to Holy Spirit he is our third strand. He has to be in the center of our marriage. He is the one that binds us in marriage, in oneness. Any two-person relationship should include Holy Spirit to have a Christ centered marriage. Just as God the father, Jesus the son, and Holy Spirit are one our marriage should represent the same oneness. Three strands to make a cord they must intertwine appropriately. Three cords unraveled are as easy to break as one. There is a significance of intertwining, mingling together, working appropriately together and unraveling. Unraveling is twist together into a usually confused mass, and disentangle. Which one are you? I hope our hearts desire is to be intertwined with Holy Spirit not a confuse mass.

Abide

Thats why it is so important for us to learn to abide in Christ!!!

Remain In Me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me John 15:4

Abide what does that truly look like? Here are some definitions I found: To stay (in a given place, state, relation or expectancy): – abide, continue, dwell, endure, be present, remain, stand, tarry. Woah! That is a lot of words to meditate on. Well let’s look at the word REMAIN IF YOU GO BACK UP TO That VERSE AGAIN you will see remain is written 3x in that verse if you read the whole chapter remain is at least mention 10x in the NLT version. I think we need to heed the word Remain and abide. If we look at verse

John 15:7 But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and It will be granted!

We need to remain in him, Yes, but we need to remain in his Word. Also, vfurther in the scriptures he tells us to remain in his love. So we can produce good fruit and be filled overflowing with his Joy!!!

ABUNDANCE

We are walking the path daily to Intimacy with fruitfulness of joy. As we abide in God’s overflowing presence daily in our lives we can learn to walk in abundant joy. True inner peace, joy unspeakable full of glory, in the Strongs concordance it says: calm delight, gladness, and cheerfulness. Joy is abundance overflowing within our lives daily walking our path with Holy Spirit in Oneness. Three strand cord is not easily broken.